The Relationship Triangle Most folk become involved in a relationship for the right reasons and leave a relationship for the incorrect reasons. In reality many of us have been guilty of it at one time and of being a total spaz demanding we get our way in the relationship. So why do we do it? I think the rationale this occurs is that we make unhealthy relationship decisions. In our deepest inner wants, we naturally long for friendship and love in our lives.

In our haste, we select unwisely and compromise for that’next person’ that comes along to satisfy that hankering.

In this context, it’s simple to bend and flex because at the beginning we still do not know that person. Then as we do begin to know them, we find that we are making more compromises because we do not have the courage to confess to our mistakes and all kinds of other crazy reasons rambling thru our head to avoid wounding some other person. Bad move, confess. In our relationship goals, we want to be much more mindful of ourselves, our habits, our needs, our dislikes and likes. The focus shouldn’t be on the individual, the focus should be on the relationship. Even in the dating context - it can lead to something major - we should target the relationship goals. What is it you would like in a relationship? Who are you in a relationship? What do you need from the relationship? And, and, and..

When you can answer these questions more obviously and you find yourself capable of understanding what you can give to the relationship, you select your partners more wisely. You also communicate more brazenly and truthfully as it is less about you and more on the relationship. The other person can listen better as it is more on the relationship and less about them. And adjustments can be made so very much more smoothly from both sides when we communicate on the relationship.

You on one side, your better half on the other. Rather than looking at and measuring each other, look to the top - the Relationship. That is your goal, that is your partners goal, and you look only at yourself compared to the relationship goals. It is not about me, it’s about the relationship. Am I able to give that to reach this in the relationship? Do I want that? Yes, then let’s do it.

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